Man refuses to continue paying entitled wife’s student loans after she insults his sister’s Ivy League education, she throws a tantrum: “You’re imperiling my well-being”

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    AITAH for not making payments towards my wife’s student loans after she insulted my sister’s education?

    "Oh, the backup school you never graduated from?"
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    I [36m] have been married to my wife, Anne [28f] for three years. Anne is an Ivy League university graduate. Without revealing too many details, she went to a school that virtually every American knows by name. My sister, Jennifer [40f] went to a different Ivy League school, but one that is considered lower in status than Anne's.
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    Jennifer did not graduate. She began suffering from mental health. issues during her second year, and so she dropped out.
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    Anne, however, did graduate, with a degree in philosophy. She works at a law office as a receptionist, making about $40,000/year.
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    Now, for some reason beyond my understanding, Anne loves talking down to Jennifer. This is particularly odd to me because I didn't even go to college, and yet she chose to marry me. I began working as a plumber out of high school, and now I own a small business that brings in a yearly profit well into six figures.
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    RECEPTION
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    Two weeks ago, Anne pushed things too far. While we were out to dinner, Jennifer made mention of her time in college in passing, and Anne said, "Oh, you mean the backup school that you never graduated from?" This sparked a short argument between the two, but Jennifer decided to be the bigger person and walk away. It
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    was incredibly awkward, but Anne seemed very satisfied with herself.
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    On the drive home, I told Anne that I was done paying off her loans. She has been enjoying virtually her entire salary as leisure money, but with her elite Ivy League education, she should be able to afford them on her own, right? Anne threw what could best be described as a tantrum, about how they're too expensive, about how she doesn't
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    get paid that much, and about how I'm imperiling her financial well- being.
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    For the last two weeks, Anne has been absolutely insufferable about this. She won't even talk to me about anything else. She insists. that she shouldn't be penalized for over a hundred thousands dollars over what amounted to a short comment.
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    Am I being an ah le here for this?
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    No-Shock-2055 • 8h ago NTA. Anne is has an Ivy league education and she's a receptionist? I think we all know why Anne gets off on talking down to Jennifer. Because, Anne isn't exactly killing it in her chosen profession. And no, you
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    shouldn't be paying off your spoiled brat wife's loans. She's SO brilliant, I'm sure she'll figure something out. The fact that she claims having to pay her own loans is "penalizing" says plenty about her character.
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    Apart-Scene-9059 • 9h ago NTA: It's her debt that I assume she owed before the marriage. You have no obligation to pay it.
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    biteme717 • 8h ago NTA, and your wife with her elite ivy league education is ONLY A RECEPTIONIST for 40,000.a year, which makes her philosophy degree worthless. Tell your wife she is no better than your sister
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    because she answers phones all day for a living. Your wife's student loans are not your responsibility.
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    Hidden_Vixen21 • 8h ago She thinks little of you and your family. And is only with you because use you're her cash card.
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    • Such-Perspective-758 8h ago You married very, very foolishly. If she looks down on your sister, she certainly looks. down on you. But then you have money so she has to be polite to you to get it.
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    ESEzagui 9h ago NTA The only education I'd willingly pay for after that would be a course on empathy because she's severely lacking in that department.
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    Bonnm42 • 8h ago NTA I would say to her "You mean the Ivy League school you went to that amounted to you getting a job, anyone (even those who didn't go to college) can get? Is that the job that's not paying enough
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    for you to pay off your fancy Ivy League school? Maybe you shouldn't throw stones when you live in a glass house."
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    Honestly it sounds like you married a mean girl. I'm surprised you married her. She doesn't sound like a good person at all. She also sounds like she tries to bu y your Sister even tho she is an adult, and that is your family member.
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    Entire-Flower1259 • 8h ago No, she shouldn't be penalized over a short comment. She should be penalized for taking courses at an Ivy League school which couldn't support her when she couldn't afford it. The tantrum
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    because she actually thinks she's better as an Ivy League degreed receptionist than a woman and a man who have done better than she has without a college degree, is just the icing on top.
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    vickeymoon38 • 8h ago Your wife is an Obviously, she is not that smart. Big brag she got a useless degree from an Ivy league college and makes 40k a year which under any other circumstances would not be
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    enough to pay her loans yet alone live off of in most places. Her loans make her wage unlivable if it were not for you. I made way more than she did my 1st year out of college 18 years ago and I never went to an ivy league school. I make 3 times that now.
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    Lol she needs to check herself...how embarrassing being a secretary that it takes a certificate/high school to achieve with her big bad Ivy league diploma.

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